You know that saying “It takes a village”? And they are referring to motherhood and parenthood and raising children? But where exactly is this infamous village? I hear great things about this village and this awesome support for moms but I can’t seem to find the hotline and where this village is. Don’t get me wrong, many moms (including myself) say they have a good support system and have great family and friends. But in today’s independent and individualistic world, it can feel isolating and lonely trying to figure out this crazy rollercoaster of raising children. We live in a time that we have possibly even more expectations and stressors and we’re expected to do it all and do it all well.

I am here to say, it is just not realistic. It is not possible to do it all and do it all well. Moms often feel they have to be everything for everyone ALL of the time. Where does that leave them? Where does that leave their needs? From both personal and professional experience, moms are struggling. And the moms who experience childhood trauma, didn’t get their physical and/or emotional needs met as children, experienced sexual trauma, these mamas tend to find parenting even more challenging. And all this social media and parenting accounts? They are great in a lot of ways but they also can make moms feel like they aren’t doing enough or learning enough and therefore…aren’t good enough.

I am here to say, it doesn’t have to be this way. Working on our own individual stuff, our own triggers, what beliefs we hold about ourselves and the world around us, and learning what our body is trying to tell us can be extremely beneficial. We can be the best version of ourselves that we so deeply want to be and so many moms that come to me long for. Most importantly, we can get out of survival mode. But it means getting off the hamster wheel. It means changing things up and not doing the same things we have been doing that are no longer serving us. We deserve to show up for ourselves and not just for everyone else. In fact, our children and families benefit from it.

I once heard the saying “the best gift you can give your children is to take care of yourself”. It makes total sense to me now and I cannot unhear it. Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s complicated. I know it isn’t so easy. It can feel impossible. But it’s worth it. Reach out today to schedule a complimentary 15 minute call to ensure fit and answer any questions you may have.